Is she really pregnant?
I’m not ready to be a father.
What if I don’t agree with her pregnancy decision?
How can I support her right now?
If your partner recently told you she’s pregnant, you likely have a million thoughts running through your head right now. That’s understandable, but there are steps you can take to gain some clarity right now.
My Partner Told Me She’s Pregnant. What Can I Do?
The first step is to take a deep breath. Whatever you’re feeling right now, your partner is likely feeling it even more.
The most important thing to do is communicate openly with your partner and actively listen.
- Communicating openly means sharing your feelings with your partner in a calm, respectful way that doesn’t make her feel pressured into anything.
- Active listening means listening to your partner without any distractions (like using your phone or watching the TV in the background) and asking follow-up questions that encourage her to go deeper into her thought process. For example, if she says she’s scared about how to move forward, you might ask, “What is making you feel that way?”
It’s also important to help your partner feel supported right now.
The decision about how to move forward is ultimately your partner’s choice to make, but your feelings and opinions are valid as well. Feel free to share what you’re feeling, but make sure your partner knows you’re there for her.
What If I’m Worried About Being a Father?
You have an important role to play as the father. If your partner wants to continue with the pregnancy and parent, your role as the father will be vital to the child’s well-being.
If you’re worried about becoming a father, this is understandable. But resources are here to support your journey into fatherhood.
At Ramona Women’s Clinic, we’re here for you. We offer one-on-one mentoring opportunities, where you can meet with an experienced mentor who will be there to provide emotional support and answer your questions.
Don’t face this alone. Contact us today to learn about all the ways we’re here to help.
