I'm pregnant and my partner is abusive

I’m Pregnant, and My Partner Is Abusive

Know that ANY form of abuse, verbal, sexual, physical, or emotional, is never okay. You deserve respect and to feel safe and protected at all times. Help is available. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at (800) 799-SAFE (7233) for immediate support.

Stay in a Safe Place

Do you feel like there is no way out of this overwhelming situation you’re in after finding out you’re pregnant? Whether your partner has previously been abusive or is just showing signs of abuse, reach out for help, as your pregnancy could be in danger as well.

Your emotions are valid, and it’s vital to ensure your safety and health immediately. The first step towards safety is finding a safe place to house yourself where your partner cannot contact you.

We know this is a big step, and we can help you take it. We can also assist you with community referrals to find affordable housing.

If you’ve already tried moving out and your partner has only become more violent, contact the police to learn more about getting a restraining order. You deserve to feel at peace.

Should I Tell My Partner About the Pregnancy?

Never be alone with your partner after any form of abuse, and it may not be safe to share the news of your pregnancy with them.

Do your best to gauge whether it’s a good time to tell your partner or best to tell them at all. Your safety is the most important thing, so if you feel it’s best not to tell your partner, trust your gut.

Talk to a trusted family member, friend, or mentor about your situation before talking to your partner. If speaking to your partner about your pregnancy seems safe, bring someone with you and do it in a public setting.

Find Non-Judgmental Support

You deserve to feel safe as you navigate an unplanned pregnancy. Facing a pregnancy without your partner can feel lonely, but you are not alone.

We are here to help at Ramona Women’s Clinic. We can listen to your unique situation and connect you to local resources so you feel safe and confident in your next steps. Contact us to speak with a team member today.

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Account for grace in the schedule

As if postpartum anxiety didn’t pose enough blatant challenges, the pressure from society surrounding baby schedules creates the perfect niche of manifestation. During a time of life where control is seemingly unattainable, there’s an appealing notion that the struggle can be countered by conforming your life to follow a structured schedule that allows for little to no error. As you enter motherhood, it becomes your responsibility to guard and guide your baby through their developmental stages. You are their advocate, and the pillar upon which they lean. As empowering as this is in theory, the reality becomes daunting when you hardly know where much less how to stand and offer the support for them to rest upon.
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How will pregnancy affect me mentally?

How Will Pregnancy Affect Me Mentally?

Just like every woman, every pregnancy is unique. Some women experience every symptom, including moodiness, immediately. Other women don’t experience any symptoms for months.

Pregnancy hormones play a definite role in how you respond mentally. If you find yourself struggling with mental health issues during pregnancy, we encourage you to seek professional help.

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First Steps After a Positive Pregnancy Test

Discovering a positive result on a pregnancy test can be a moment of mixed emotions, especially for young individuals in their teens and early twenties. Whether it’s a feeling of joy, surprise, or uncertainty, knowing what to do next is crucial. At Ramona Women’s Clinic, located in Ramona, CA, we’re here to guide you through these initial steps with understanding and support. This blog aims to provide clear, non-judgmental, and easily understandable information about the first steps to take after a positive pregnancy test. We’ll explore everything from confirming your pregnancy to understanding your options, ensuring you’re equipped with the knowledge to make informed decisions. Our clinic is committed to supporting you through this significant phase of your life, offering a range of services and compassionate care.

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Understanding Adoption: A Practical Guide

Discovering an unexpected pregnancy can lead to a whirlwind of emotions and tough decisions. For many young women and men, especially those in their teens and early twenties, considering the future becomes a priority. Adoption is one of the paths you might contemplate. At Ramona Women’s Clinic, we believe in providing clear, compassionate information to help you navigate these life-changing choices. In this blog, we’ll explore the intricacies of adoption – what it involves, the emotional journey, and how it might be the right decision for you and your baby. Located in Ramona, CA, our clinic is dedicated to supporting you through every step of this journey. Adoption is more than a process; it’s a journey of love, courage, and sometimes, sacrifice. Our aim is to offer guidance and support, ensuring you have all the information needed to make the best decision for your unique situation.

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Valentines Day? Every Day?

Contrasting momentary romance with a constant state of love.

We are entering into the season of LOVE where our culture markets a consumer-driven picture of romance; encouraging the world’s idea that love is measured by material gifts, monetary value, and sensuality. As if these well-advertised lies weren’t hard enough to dismantle and refute before you had kids; I’m willing to bet that your mom bun, dirty leggings and constant state of overstimulation aren’t making it any easier to reject. The image they’re trying to sell; even just for a night– jewelry and flowers (specifically long stem roses), an expensive dinner (just the two of you), wine and dessert (top-shelf, and indulgent), and of course the night ends in lingerie.  Now this idea heavily contrasts the “I Love You!” sticky note on your fridge, as you make a box of mac-n-cheese sipping a glass of $3 wine you bought at Aldi, still strutting the milk stained oversized t-shirt you stole from your husbands drawer. It’s no wonder that when we look to the world’s idea of love and romance, we feel our own relationships fall short and our efforts of love are in vain.

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Establishing Your 2024 Goals and Resolutions With Intention

Establishing your 2024 goals and resolutions with intention 

With the year coming to a close, this is normally the time that we’re sitting on the couch feeling guilty for binge-eating our way through the holidays; promising ourselves we’re going to be better starting the first of the year. However, our idea of “doing better” commonly manifests itself through extreme and unrealistic expectations we set for ourselves under the disguise of a “New Year’s resolution”. It’s hard enough to navigate the process of setting intentional goals for ourselves when we are not pregnant or nursing, but then throw those hormones, cravings, sleep deprivation, and mom-brain into the mix, and not only is our diet out the window but so is our drive to do anything physical. As if the daily pressure of motherhood wasn’t heavy enough, let’s just add some unnecessary self-deprivation into the mix.

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Woman finding a Second Trimester Pregnancy Options

What Are My Second-Trimester Pregnancy Options?

There are three options when it comes to your second-trimester pregnancy options. Maybe the initial fear and anxiety have settled a bit now, and you can see clearer. You have three options to choose from: surgical abortion, adoption, or parenting. 

The decision is ultimately yours, but we’re here to inform you so you can make a confident decision.

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Redefining Your Holiday Spirit

Whether you’re spending this holiday season in maternity pants or your first set of matching pajamas, odds are this year is looking far different from those prior. While its easy to get caught up in the consumer driven rat-race we call the holidays, easy to be offended by the “eating for two” dinner comments, and equally easy to be consumed by postpartum anxiety at the sight of your baby being passed around like the sweet potato side dish; you are encouraged to take this season to establish traditions that are intentional and unique to your family.

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